But recently, apparent by his repetitive posts on how TMN are child-attacking cyber bullies, the posts about him on TMN seemed to have gone to his head, his desire to get one over on them becoming unhealthy. His multiple threads about the TMN seemed to flood Simstopia every day. JKMartinez seemed to think he was some sort of twisted superhero and that it was now his job to save the innocent little kiddies from the fate of the Mare's Nest.
Now, I would present examples of all these threads (often named the Hag's Nest or something of the like) but prior to his exit, JKMartinez managed to wipe all of them from the Simstopian website, (I must explain that on Simstopia, threads are not usually deleted. They are moved to a graveyard part of the site so that they can be still be read for future reference.) although unbeknownst to him, NOT from existence.
Which begs the question - why did JKMartinez feel he needed to delete all of his threads about TMN? (it was not like he deleted all of his other threads as well, only the ones about the Mare's)
Guilty conscience catching up to him maybe? Read further and you may find out why his conscience should indeed be making him feel guilty.
You see, this is where I come in. On a number of occasions I had stood my ground against JKMartinez - not afraid to disagree with him and question his totalitarian attitude. To be honest, it seemed others on the site were somewhat scared of him.
But then, this was someone in a position of authority (he was a mod afterall) who was abusing his power. And a person does not need to be a psychologist to know that equals bad news. and I have now learned through experience that Brad does not like anyone standing up to him or disagreeing with him at all.
On one such occasion, I had had enough of JKMartinez's attitude, and more than enough of the way he was starting to treat people who didn't agree with him.
The thread started off with him moaning about how TMN were obsessed with him (as did all his other threads on the subject). Many people gave their opinions, some agreeing with Brad, others not. And as usual, when someone didn't agree, JKMartinez either ignored them, or actually started attacking them. I'll leave any readers to judge whether what he said was mean (he didn't think it was)
Conor then went on to defend himself (quite rightly in my opinion) and called Brad out for being rude.
And here came Brad's usual drivel about how the mare's nest are cyber bullies.
This post of BradisBad's is what made me angry for many reasons.
#1 He just doesn't seem to understand that there is a difference between having an opinion and trying to enforce it on others, or mocking others who don't agree with you
#2 He claims to be a nice person, but completely doesn't seem to realise that what he said to Conor was not only rude but incredibly mean.
#3 Again, he accuses TMN of being cyber-bullying cowards and, well, I don't know about a coward, but this earlier quote of Brad's does seem quite like bullying
'Did you find today's post funny then? They just attacked me, Vanticat and Scenegothgirl and others. I hope you get a nice belly laugh. I'm glad you find their assaults on people as funny and I'm glad you can get a snicker out of the pain they inflict. Good on you!'
I'll leave people to make their own minds up about whether that is bullying or not, but in my opinion it was very much so.
#4 Taking #3 into account, he also accused TMN of attacking children. To any who may not know, Conor is a child, to me making Brad a massive hypocrite.
This was not the first time he had called TMN bullies or accused them of attacking children... simply go and read the second post of his blog.
Or the third
Or the fourth....
He seems to have a lot of guts spreading that around when he's more than willing to attack children himself. Either that or a misconception of reality.
Back onto the thread. I jumped in, pretty much saying exactly what I just typed here.
His reply:
Notice that he excuses himself by saying he was just trying to show Conor how bad TMN are and how Conor was condoning their behaviour. Again, he cannot understand the concept that others are allowed their own opinions - he has to try and make them see his view.
He also can't accept that what I quoted was mean or some form of attack. Well, everyone is entitled to their own opinions about some things, but maybe check out the same links I showed Brad.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bully
It's hard to argue with dictionary definitions. 'overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people' really strikes the nail on the head of how BradisBad was acting - especially as this was not the first time he had treated someone this way.
Also, notice the post below his. Many people seem to be afraid of this simmer - afraid to state their opinion in case he turned around and attacked them. Which I found out was the aftermath of questioning Brad as he turned and tried to attack me - saying by my accusations that I was as bad as him. (when did I insult a child? Unless Brad was talking about himself, but then his information lists him as 27 - quite clearly not a child. His 'logic' definitely had me confused.)
Of course I objected
And set things straight with a simmer who was timidly trying to sweep the issue under a carpet
As usual, Brad turned defensive - jumping into the role of victim as per usual. But there IS a problem with a mod doing the opposite of their job (disrespecting simmers when their job is actually to prevent disrespectful remarks). Also, I was not trying to show how righteous I was, or being confident of how righteous I was. I was not trying to say I was virtuous, because heck I more than realise I am not. I was simply referring to the rules of the very site where Brad was in position as mod - rules simple and fair enough that ANYONE should have been able to follow them. And it was not the person that I disliked or wanted gone, but their behaviour.
After this post, Brad went on to make one more post announcing that he was locking the thread - stopping me from defending myself or anyone else jumping in to tell Brad that what he had said to Conor wasn't acceptable. But Chatter also posted, saying that Brad was acting inappropriately and that the way he had treated Conor HAD been rude and mean, going on to move Brad's posts to the Graveyard part of the site.
And remember what I said earlier about how Simstopia do not delete any threads, but move them? Well, after locking the thread, Brad went on to delete the thread, and his posts from the site graveyard - without even the site owner's knowledge.
His rudeness ran to extremes after that, entering the chatbox where I was discussing his behaviour with the owner of the site, who agreed that what I had said was true (luckily we were in a private chat window) and that there had been problems with this behaviour from BradisBad before where he has encouraged instead of prevented bad behaviour from a simmer - which consequently got them banned from the site- and that the issue of taking away his mod privileges had been raised on numerous occasions.
Anyway, after entering the chatbox, Brad went on to ignore me until I once again confronted him, where in reply he started typing as many obscenities as he could. He was consequently kicked from the chat by the owner of Simstopia, who then went on to reveal to me that they and Brad were talking in the mod/admin chat - and he was resigning his mod position and leaving the site.
He accused me of always treating him badly - turning the tables on me and saying that I was the problem (if anyone has any information on how I was actually the problem instead of him, I would be very glad to hear it, as when I asked Brad he could only swear and repeatedly call me a self-righteous ***** in reply). He also tried to wriggle out of what he had said by pointing out how much he had done for simstopia - all the posts and creations he had made to help the site, as if this would somehow excuse his behaviour or make people feel sorry he was leaving.
Now, I know that this simmer has many friend and supporters, who support him in his quest against TMN. I am also not a person who agrees with everything TMN says, or who in any way supports them. Before this example of Brad attacking a simmer, I was neither for or against his ideas about TMN.
But the fact is that although Brad can appear to be very nice and helpful at times, he is also extremely mean to other simmers. His 'niceness' does not excuse his other behaviours, regardless of how well-meant his intentions were. Perhaps he was nice at first, but his obsession with TMN at the very least has driven him to some sort of breaking point - attacking anyone who gets in his way.
I am tired of people supporting him without knowing all the facts - without knowing how he has treated simmers. As I said, this was not the only instance of him attacking someone - but was the only one I was fortunate enough to get screenshots of. Again, I question why exactly he felt the need to delete the thread. He obviously realised in some way that he had been in the wrong, or he would he have simply left them in the Graveyard part of the site, where the usual members couldn't see it but mods and admins could.
I leave any readers of this post to make their own conclusions about BradisBad/JKMartinez/BradToxicBlonde, not pushing my own on anyone but simply stating how I feel, knowing that now people can make their opinions knowing more of the story behind him leaving Simstopia, and also with a statement from his own blog which I found oddly fitting.
Feel free to join his new site, now you know how he treats people.
Sadly, an innocent game such as the Sims 3 and it's surrounding websites can prove to be so much more when adults behave like this. I think people need to remember that a large portion of Sims 3 consumers are not yet adults and treat them accordingly - but in reality it seems that people form cliques and use them to acquire some sort of social standing within the Sims3 community.. often leading to rude behaviour like this when people get too big for their boots, and obviously don't think about what they are saying to other people before posting.
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